In One Week

Recently I was with a couple of friends, and one was sharing about her relief when she got some professional help with a problem that was causing her anxiety.

She told us that after her appointment, she felt validated in her own perspectives, armed with some sound learning about what was going on, and now had a plan for moving forward.

As I listened to her, I could see a visible difference in her demeanor from prior conversations. She definitely had some newfound confidence.

Then my other friend remarked, “Isn’t is great when you go to an expert about your situation and they set your mind at ease?”

This exchange carried my thoughts to next week's evening presentation, ”Being Queen Is Not That Complicated.” 

Interpersonal conflicts can feel overwhelming and confusing, but conflict resolution professionals know they don’t have to be. 

You can be equipped with solid learning about what’s going on in your conflict situation, become aware of your own perspectives, and have a plan for moving forward.

If you’re feeling like my friend was, and the idea of clarity, vision, (and a break from anxiety) appeals to you, I’m inviting you to come join me next Thursday, April 27^th.

Allow me to invest some time and resources in you that will help you find new confidence too. 

I know you’ll walk away with a little more spring in your step!

DrK
If you'd like to know more about uncomplicating your conflict, contact me at confidentconflict.com for a complimentary conversation!  
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The Hope That Is In Me

 

This week I’m taking a break from my conflict posting because Sunday is Easter, and as a follower of Christ, it’s a day for me to write about.

I’ve mentioned in the past that conflict resolution professionals are optimistic people; they know the potential for peace exists in the midst of any conflict.

I’m no exception – hope is my thing.

Today I want to communicate the Reason I have hope. It’s because Jesus – the Prince of Peace, the One Who made peace with God for us – is triumphantly alive!

When the power of God raised Him from death, He conquered its horrors – it’s destruction, and it’s hopelessness – and resurrected the hope of new life for all.

Although Christ’s story this weekend begins with His sacrificial death on the cross, it doesn’t end there. The the final chapter of the story is resurrection life, filled with victory!

For me, there is hope in all things because of Jesus and the power for peace He has given us: a spirit that is not fearful, but a one of power and love.

I will always have hope – in conflict and in life – because I am one of the Easter people, and I know that in the end, Life wins.

Wishing you the joy of a victorious life in the love of God!

DrK
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A Place To Begin

Last week I talked about allowing yourself some space to consider your desires for a conflict situation and discover your ideas about its dynamics. This post is about taking action with that information.

Another thing that can keeps us paralyzed with inaction is becoming overwhelmed with what our situation encompasses – what is affecting us, affecting them, our relationship, the issues – it feels like too much to deal with.

And you know what? It is!  (Well, at least, all at once.)

A common trap you might fall into with sorting this out is thinking you need to tackle the whole thing in a single swoop. Conflict resolution professionals know a secret: that’s not how you approach an ongoing conflict. Your goal is to make small shifts in the direction of the conversation – from negative to positive – and work on only one piece of the puzzle at a time.

If you did the Magic Wand exercise, you now have a lot of data. Choose one item from the answers to the questions you asked yourself and think of how you could change that one thing.

For example, you might have discovered you haven’t actually allowed the other person to tell you how they truly feel. Perhaps you interrupt them, or dismiss the feelings they try to convey to you.

Decide this is the part you want to work on. Determine the next time that happens you will be aware of what you’re doing and discipline yourself to let them speak. Then verbally acknowledge how they’re feeling.

Now, this might seem like too small a paddle for your boat in the big ocean of conflict, but you’ll be surprised at the impact one change can make.

In the emotional flood of the prospect of changing a conflict conversation, all you really need to do is identify is a place to begin.

One place. One step. One impact. 

It will make a difference.
DrK

If you'd like to know more about identifying actions to take, contact me at confidentconflict.com for a complimentary conversation!  
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