Have you ever felt like a
conflict erupted out of the blue and you didn’t see it coming? Certainly there
are instances when this is truly the case.
More commonly however, you’ve
already had a growing awareness that a problem was developing. You have been
experiencing small signs telling you something was not quite right between you
and another person. You feel the disharmony when you’re around them.
I’m sure you know what I
mean. Your internal signals are giving you clues that something is happening. As
you continue to interact with the person, the warnings get louder.
And what happens?
Avoidance kicks in, right? “I
know something’s wrong here,” you think, “but I don’t want to face it; I don’t
want to bring it up.” Then comes the misguided
hope that the situation will simply resolve itself.
But it doesn’t – it only gets
worse. Until the blow-up, when the situation is out of control.
At this earliest inkling of a
conflict, you are in the strongest position to determine how you want to handle
it and impact the outcome.
Pay attention to what you
perceive. Recognize those prompts. Consider what they are telling you. Stop,
look, and listen. Think about how you can tackle the circumstances.
You can start small, with
non-confrontational inquiries. My colleague, Tammy Lenski’s post here offers
some excellent examples of how to initiate the conversation.
Courageously address what you
are sensing and stem the tide of what might be!
DrK
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