Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Secret Agent


“Every problem has a gift for you in its hands.”  ~ Richard Bach

I have a friend who’s moving to Boston. It’s her first major move since she got married and had her two children. This has precipitated reflective conversations between us. We’ve talked about change and the season of chaos it can bring to one’s life, the scariness about not knowing what lies ahead, and the new possibilities – the “gift” as Richard Bach says – that will be coming to her and her family.

The agent of change in my friend’s circumstance is her husband’s new job, and it was their choice to make the change. Sometimes though, this is not the case when change comes to you.

Conflict is an agent of change. You may not have thought of it in that way, and it’s certainly not one you would choose.

Consider this though: conflict shakes up our status quo, takes us down unknown paths, and forces us to make decisions about living differently as we navigate them.

As it is with my friend’s move, along with the chaos and scariness, conflict brings new possibilities – for understanding, respect, and connection.

When you think about a conflict that you are experiencing, try looking at it from this perspective – that it is meant to have an active role in producing something new in your life.

Ask yourself two questions:

     What change is this conflict setting before me now?

     What is the “gift” in its hands that is there for me to discover?

You just might be surprised at what happens.

Dr.K 
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