Learning how to handle conflict can be tricky. Usually when we don't know how to do something, we seek the instruction of experts and learn the skills for success in that area. Applying those principles in the practical settings of our life though, often presents a new challenge.
In the biblical account of David and Goliath (1Samuel 17), a young shepherd faces off with Goliath, a formidable combatant who intimidates the Israelite armies. David fights Goliath in the name of his Lord with only a slingshot and stones from a nearby stream -- and kills him, much to the astonishment of all.
As David was getting ready for the battle, King Saul put his own armor on David, along with his helmet and sword. David took some time to walk around in it all and see how he could maneuver. Then he took everything off, declaring he could hardly move. So to arm himself, he picked up what were proven weapons for him: his shepherd's staff, his slingshot and five stones.
Even though the king (the battle expert) was saying to David, "You need armor, a helmet and a sword to fight,” (these weapons had proven to be successful for Saul) when it came time for David to face Goliath himself, he had to rely on what he knew worked in his own experience.
As you prepare for those Goliath times in your life, don’t try to walk around in someone else's armor. Definitely learn the principles and skills that will effectively empower you in the midst of conflict, but also trust what you already know about yourself.
Engage with others in a way that is authentically you. Discover the behaviors that are the best fit for who you are and trust your own "slingshot and stones."
Cheers to you – choosing what works best!
DrK
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