Conflict and Clarity (Having New Eyes)

Often when I have an opening conversation with a new client, she is  all over the map while talking about the conflict that’s bothering her. As she’s speaking, I hear many emotions and many issues that are on her mind. It all comes tumbling out in a stream of consciousness as she jumps from one topic to another. 

Part of our initial work is to sort through everything and help her get more organized in her thinking so she has a greater understanding of the conflict, and can envision the outcome she truly wants.

Relational conflicts can push many buttons. You may be aware of the familiar ones, but new ones can be in the mix as well. Sometimes smaller matters are related to one another and are actually a part of a bigger issue. Sometimes the entire conflict is actually only about one main on-going problem.

It's necessary to take this organizational step to reduce confusion and identify what is important to you in the conflict. It is essential to have an accurate road map for where you want to go with the situation, and to know what resolution looks like to you. 

Equipped with this understanding, you will also be clear about subsequent actions you want to take. 

Clarity can be difficult in the heat of the moment, but taking the time to develop this insight in peaceful moments will have a significant impact or your ability to articulate your goals and desires when tackling any follow-up conversations in the future.

DrK

 
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