Busting Five Top Conflict Myths (Are You Ready to Rule?) Part 2

Myth#2  You have to be angry in order to be powerful in conflict.

Often when start to feel weak in a conflict, we believe we need to show more anger so that we can regain some of our power. Holding on to your anger might make you feel like you have power, but the truth is, an angry person is actually a weak person.

When you're angry, you can become out of control; anger can overtake you, and you can say things you regret later. That's not power at all.

The way to rule in conflict is with the power that comes from inner strength, from having self control. Strength in conflict comes from believing that your desires and goals deserve equal consideration in the event, and being calm, but firm in your behaviors.

True power is:

• being absolutely convinced you always have a choice about what you will -- and will not -- accept in your conversations
• electing to stop speaking yourself and actively listen to the other person as you allow them to speak
• being strong enough to both value your own needs in the situation and consider what the other person is asking of you.

The next time you're tempted to believe this myth, remember the faulty thinking that it is, and don't go for the anger.

Rule by being a stronger you!

~DrK

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