Conflict and Flexibility (Taking the Detour)

Wednesday's post was about running into information in a conversation that tells you the road you're on to get what you want has been blocked.

The second half of the story is about what frequently accompanies those road blocks: detour signs!
Signs we encounter that say, "Hey don't worry, there is another way to get to your destination."

Detours are also something to remember when you run into those road blocks in your conversations and your expectations are thwarted. You can probably still achieve your goal, but it's likely it will happen differently than you thought.

Loosening  your grip on your expectations doesn't mean you have to completely let go of your wishes. Simply recognize the legitimacy of the other person's desire and respond to the call to be resourceful in figuring out how to work together. Allow yourself to be open to the creativity that is possible.

You can figure it out. Maybe you'll need to take a break and rethink things with the new information you've learned (and you can always just say that), but you do have choices, and you have the ability to envision what will be needed.

Remember there's always a detour -- you just have to discover it (which is not necessarily all bad!).

DrK
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