Leadership is a popular ongoing topic these days. You are probably aware of all kinds of literature on leadership (to include leading in your own life), and most likely, have heard of Executive and Leadership coaching.
Lewis Grizzard captured one aspect of the pull of leadership when he said, "Life is like a dogsled team. If you ain't the lead dog, the scenery never changes."
I wonder though, have you ever considered the idea of leading in conflict? Of being the lead dog in that arena?
By this I mean being the person who sets the standard for how the people in your sphere of influence talk to each other, what values will be maintained in communication where there are difficulties, and especially in determining the conflict culture you will, and will not, accept.
When we think of developing our skills for managing relational conflicts -- in business, family or ministry -- we tend to think more about our own personal development; we often forget that we will be impacting others with the changes we make in ourselves.
Of course, leading in this can be a scary prospect. Sometime is means doing something that no one else is doing, or taking a leap without knowing if others will follow.
Yet, it is important to recognize the reality of the bigger picture. If you are someone who leads others, lead them (and yourself) in this realm too -- lead them through the chaos of conflict. Lead them in communicating respect, in valuing others, in the goal of agreement.
When you next encounter a conflict situation (and I'm sure you will), think in terms of your own leadership and step into that role. Use those moments to let others know who you are and the character that should be followed.
Lead -- with competence, with compassion and with peace.
Be the lead dog and let that scenery change!
DrK
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